How to start the conversation?

Words are those friendly little sounds we make when we know exactly what we want to say and there is no stress involved. But starting to talk about sexual problems without your partner is a whole new ball game of pressure. How do you break the ice? Well, there are no hard and fast rules. You have known her for some time now. You have to trust yourself and her to keep talking once you take the first step. These are some of the ways in which you could start a discussion:

“I’ve been wondering whether any of the diet supplements I’m taking are the cause of the difficulties I’ve been having in the bedroom.”

“Sex was very important to us when we started our relationship. Now, our sex life seems to be changing and not for the better. Is this a good time to talk about it?”

“I’ve been reading up on ED. Apparently, it can be a warning sign of other health problems. I think it’s time to go and ask our doctor about it.”

The hard work of starting a conversation does not have to be left all to the men. Partners can be the ones to make the first move. Here are some of the ways partners might open up the issue for discussion:

“I love you and I know you love me, but you’ve started avoiding having sex. It’s starting to worry me. Can we talk about it?”

“I’ve noticed we haven’t been making love. Do you think there might be a medical explanation? Perhaps we should make an appointment to see our doctor.”

“I know there’ve been some problems in the bedroom and I’m sorry if I’ve been neglecting you. Can we talk about this? Maybe a doctor can offer some advice.”

“You know those ads that keep coming through our e-mail? I know the spam is annoying but perhaps we should find out more.”